Boundary Scripts
Exact words for the boundaries you've been softening
A boundary is a sentence you say once and live by every day after. Borrow these. Edit them. Use them tonight.
Situation
He only texts after 10pm
Say this
“I'm not available for late-night-only conversations. If you want to know me, text me during the day.”
Situation
He cancels last-minute, again
Say this
“I noticed this is the second cancellation. I'm going to step back from planning with you until you're consistent.”
Situation
He wants to skip dating and 'see where it goes'
Say this
“I date with intention. If 'seeing where it goes' is the plan, we're not aligned, and that's okay.”
Situation
He gets defensive when you name something
Say this
“I'm not asking you to defend yourself. I'm asking you to hear me. We can pause and come back to this.”
Situation
He pushes for physical intimacy before you're ready
Say this
“My yes is not on your timeline. If that is a deal-breaker for you, I respect it — and I am still not changing my answer.”
Situation
He keeps you a secret from his friends and family
Say this
“I am not a private collection. If I'm not someone you introduce, I'm not someone you keep.”
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