Journal Prompt

Writing the List: What I Actually Deserve

Not what's realistic. Not what's available. What you deserve. A prompt for raising the floor of your dating life.

Most of us were taught to negotiate with reality. This prompt asks you to stop, and to write the unedited list.

Then we cross out everything that came from fear, and keep everything that came from truth.

I am not asking for too much. I am asking the wrong people.

Sit with these three questions

  1. What do I deserve that I have stopped naming out loud?
  2. Which of my 'preferences' are actually non-negotiables in disguise?
  3. What would my life look like 12 months from now if I refused to settle below this list?

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